The Book

Mother Love

1frompark

With my son now safely ensconced in college, I'm homeschooling my second child (which is not to say I'm teaching everything myself. I'm not.  She has a variety of teachers).

After working through the fundamentals of algebra and geometry for a few months, they've now moved onto the "SAT math," and as we left yesterday, he said her homework for the weekend was to practice functions, exponents and "in terms of" problems.

Well, you can imagine how excited mama bear over here was to hear about this.  I am so ready.

First thing this morning, I started pulling together my worksheets and making the little "SAT packets," when suddenly it dawned on me: it's SAT Groundhog Day. I get a re-do with kid #2.

Below is an excerpt from from "Take 1."

It’s a Wonderful Life

I love arts and crafts.

The day my new Blue Book arrived, I was moved by the creative spirit to change the book just a little. Given that I’d already ruined my chance to use the book the way it was intended, I thought, “Why not be whimsical and make the Blue Book a little more ‘me’?”

So I cut up all the pages and pieced them back together the way I liked them: by category. Linear function problems, all in one place. Right triangle problems, all in one place. Misplaced modifier questions, all in one place.

Then I digitally scanned my newly organized book so I could print off sheets of like problems: all right triangle problems, for instance, or just the dangling modifiers, and so on. There were resources to help me categorize—PWN the SAT Math Guide and The Ultimate Guide to SAT Grammar—to name two. And when I was done, I printed out my brand-new Blue Book, by category.

It was months before the true fruits of my labor were realized. Ethan was in the thick of it, studying for his SAT, when we had a Hallmark moment. He was in the dining room correcting his practice test from the day before and was frustrated by all the mistakes he’d made on the function problems (who isn’t, right?).

And just then, a lightbulb went off and I remembered my Blue Book project of a few months earlier. I searched my computer for “Functions,” and the most coherent, logical, and useful document I’d ever seen ap- peared at my fingertips—function problems of every sort, from tables and graphs to nested functions and word problems. It was magnificent, if you’re into this kind of thing, which I was, and Ethan now was, too, apparently.

SAT LOVE 2I printed out the document and handed him the first sheets, which consisted of about eight function problems. He looked up when he saw them, wide-eyed and incredulous, so I ran back to the printer and got more—maybe twenty in the next batch—and brought those over, too. He’d already started to work on the first ones, and dare I say, I saw a glimmer of delight in his eye.

When I laid that second batch on the table, he looked up and smiled with such love and tenderness, becoming, for an instant, the same little boy who’d first looked up at me and said “Mama” so many years before, and right then he uttered the magic words without so much as realizing what he was saying. He raised his head and said, “You’re the best SAT mom in the whole world”—just like that, in slow motion.

We both realized in that one instant what I’d done.

Sometimes you can’t see the forest for the trees, but at that moment we both did. Some moms show their love through food. Ethan always says, “Castalucci’s mom makes the best meatballs I’ve ever had” (translation: they’re made with such love. Can you do that?). And Carolyn, his friend Philip’s mom, “makes the best salads,” and grills steak like he’s “never tasted before” (translation: can you at least try to do that?). And Sam’s mom “brings peanut butter and jelly sandwiches to every single game—for the whole team.” (Some moms go to every single game.)

My love showed differently. My love was delivered in the form of test prep for the SAT—function problems specifically, on that day. And I had triangles, and dangling modifiers, and faulty parallelism, too—you name it, I had it. I could serve it up fast, like a short-order cook.

In that moment, Ethan and I both realized that my homemade worksheets were the meatballs in our house that year. Mother love gets expressed in all kinds of strange ways.

...............

You can read more from the book by downloading this adorable little Perfect Score Project excerpt booklet.

And if you are inclined to purchase the book, it would be more than great (actually, it would be really helpful to me) if you could pre-order it now (which I realize seems crazy, given that the book doesn't go on sale until February, but apparently,  "pre-orders" are "very important" to the success of a book).

Thank you thank you!

And as always, write to me if you have questions. And if you took the SAT today -- eat a Clifford the Big Red Dog-sized bowl of spaghetti. It helps!

 

Illustrations by Jennifer Orkin Lewis.

 
  • Jen

    Are you homeschooling entirely or SAT homeschooling? If it's the first, I think you've got your next blog and book topic! I would like to start reading it soon, because I'm not sure how long I'll be able to watch my kid learn very, very little in school (but hey, he gets to be in a lot of groups of other kids also not learning much) and I don't see any bright changes in the future. Perhaps my soon to be graduated and likely un or under-employed oldest child can be his tutor? He's already begun SAT tutoring...

    • http://www.perfectscoreproject.com Debbie Stier

      Hi Jen, I mean homeschooling homeschooling. As in, she doesn't go to a school -- for all the same reasons you write above. I pulled her out before school ended last year. I just couldn't take it anymore. She was so unengaged, it was torture (for me!)

      It turned out to be the best decision I never made. She is learning SO MUCH now, it's crazy. And trust me, putting together her curriculum was way easier than trying to make the schools be what I wanted them to be. Honestly, I can't believe I didn't do it sooner--it's that fabulous. And yes...that's what I want to write my next book about! Given that it probably won't be finished in time to help you, please email me if you have any homeschool q's. Debbie@perfectscoreproject.com

    • http://www.perfectscoreproject.com Debbie Stier
    • http://www.perfectscoreproject.com Debbie Stier

      And another one well worth reading from today's paper: http://nyti.ms/1jvN1zV "Many are being taught by teachers who have no particular expertise in the subjects...." With homeschooling, you can choose the teachers. One of the many fabulous courses my daughter is taking (all courses are taught by experts in their field) is Shakespeare, taught by an Oxford prof who is on sabbatical.

  • ginny

    Taking the blue book and organizing it by topic? Pure genius! Makes perfect sense. Are you referring to the College Board's sat prep guide?

    • http://www.perfectscoreproject.com Debbie Stier

      Hi Ginny...yep...the College Board's Blue Book. That's the one. And thank you!!! The only caveat with this plan is that you also need "mixed practice," and to do full, timed tests in order to prepare well. i.e. endurance training.

      For the endurance training for my son, I used the College Board's online tests, the 3 freebies they offer on their website-- plus, I had the 3 tests that I'd taken myself and had ordered the QAS's for-- so that was 14 full, timed tests for him to take before taking the real SAT (which he did!).

      But yes, having the blue book by section is pretty fun!!!

  • http://www.perfectscoreproject.com Debbie Stier

    And another one well worth reading from today's paper: http://nyti.ms/1jvN1zV "Many are being taught by teachers who have no particular expertise in the subjects...." With homeschooling, you can change that. One of the many fabulous courses my daughter is taking (all taught by experts in field) is Shakespeare, taught by an Oxford prof who is on sabbatical.